The responsibility for this lies with the perpetrator alone, says Annalisa Barbieri. You are not to blame: he is
I was raped by someone I thought was a friend, and am scared that if I tell my partner he will think I’ve cheated or it was my fault.
I had gone for drinks at a friend’s house and fell asleep in the spare room. I woke up and someone was in the bed. It was dark and I couldn’t see who it was. He had taken off my jeans and put himself inside me. I pushed him away, but he did it again. I hit him and got out of there as quickly as I could. He tried to say sorry and I knew then who it was.
I was raped. I don’t know whether to tell my boyfriend